Astrologer Wendy Stacey


Quick Tips for Beginners
Introduction to Synastry

AA Journal May 2008
Copyright Wendy Stacey

Have you ever wondered why we are more attracted to some people than others?  Or what the attraction is?  Why are we more compatible with some people be it partners, friends, colleagues or peers - and not so compatible with others?

Some may say the reason you dislike the traits in others is because this may reflect what you don’t like in yourself.  This can be true; and there is much to be learnt when you discover why people can ‘push your buttons’ when making comparisons between birth charts.   This can also be true for discovering why you may be attracted to someone –to find out what it is they have that ‘turns you on’.

There are various synastry techniques that can be used for looking at relationships.

The most common way to look at them is by chart comparison.  This is looking at where someone else’s planets fall in another person’s chart.  Which house do they fall in and what aspects do they make to each other’s planets and angles?  This gives a good indication of where any conflict may arise and also explains the attraction.  If a planet in one person’s chart makes a difficult aspect in another person’s chart, this may show where there is tension in the relationship, or where there is some irritation.  For example,  If someone has a stellium in Aquarius which in their own chart falls in the first house but resides in the partners 4th house, for the partner the home environment will be stimulated, shaken up and will become crazy or exciting.   This may or may not be comfortable for the partner, depending on what the whole of their own natal chart shows and what they seek at the time of the relationship.  Another example is if someone’s Saturn is opposed to someone else’s Mercury, there may be some difficulty in communicating.  The person with the Mercury may feel somewhat gagged in the relationship. 

Frequently relationships commence when one or both people experience transits and particularly progressions.  It is not unusual to find harmonious aspects between people who meet during a time period where one person’s progressed planet(s) make harmonious contacts to another’s planet(s).   For example, when someone’s progressed Venus conjoins someone else’s natal Sun.  This can be a beautiful and affectionate combination.  Similarly, if someone’s progressed Moon conjoins someone else’s Mercury; this can increase the depth and influence the scope and level of communication during this progression.  However, progressions have a time limit and are not permanent.

There is also the magic of ‘opposites attract’ which we see in relationships frequently.  The advantage of opposites is that the individuals can be seen and understood by each other extremely well.  As we know, the shadow of Capricorn is Cancer, Virgo to Pisces and so on, and in a partnership opposites can create some balance for those who seek it.  Opposites are not just limited to planetary and angle positions but also other areas of the chart.  Opposites can also include when someone who has the majority of planets in the right hemisphere of the chart is often attracted to people with a strong emphasis in the left hemisphere of the chart.  This is also the same for quadrants’, missing elements and so on.  This can create a balance and can often make individuals feel more whole or complete.

Conversely, another interesting way to looking at compatibility is to see the commonality between people; particularly for people who share commonality between the Sun, Moon and Ascendant, which is often what we find in families.  Sharing the same degrees of signs can also share a common bond.  People are often attracted to people that are like them, share the same interests, have the same outlook on life, want the same things and so on. The commonality is comfortable, familiar and in my view often represents more permanency.  For example, someone with Scorpio rising has something in common with someone who possesses a Scorpio moon, although different, there is some familiarity and ease of understanding Scorpio qualities here.  Similarly, when someone’s Moon is in the same sign as someone else’s Sun, there is something shared between these people; there is some unity.  A couple I know who are both earth signs share a Sagittarian Ascendant.  They travel enormously both in their work and in their private life and live their lives as though they are permanently sitting on a tarmac always waiting for the plane to take off.  They have great adventures but always itchy feet and often struggle with knowing where they want to settle down – not easy for earth signs.  This commonality is neither good nor bad but shows similar interests they can pursue together and a lifestyle they both enjoy.

The composite chart describes the relationship between two people.  There are a few different methods of creating composite charts, but the most common method involves finding the midpoint between each planet, angles, nodes etc in one person’s chart with the same planets, angles, nodes etc in the other person’s chart to show the position for these in the composite chart.  For example, if one person’s Venus is at 1 degree Aries and the other person’s Venus is at 3 degrees Gemini, the midpoint between the two will be at 2 degrees Taurus, which becomes the position of Venus in the composite chart.  This technique will tell you about the relationship of the people involved and where sensitive points are, particularly for transits.  It does not tell you about the individuals themselves but gives some idea of how the relationship manifests, what areas in the relationship have more focus and which areas have less. 

Dates of events can also help or hinder relationships such as a date of a marriage or business formation, which is why people attempt to elect them.  It will have some bearing on the relationship and give some indication of how the consolidation of a partnership can affect a relationship.

Whatever the attraction is between people, more often relationships bring something we need to live through.  Be it through triggering off something in our own chart through aspects and planetary placements, common principles, seeking opposites or living a relationship through a temporary progression, there is always something to learn from the power of attraction.

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